We all live our lives in future.
And by that I mean we obsess about it all the time. we fret about it all the time. For us it is all about what will happen in the future. We make plans. We make friends. We make business relationships. We make relationships. All with an eye on future. Future drives. Motivates us. Sends us into depression.
But what really is future?
It is a passage of time. Plain and simple. It is ticking of a clock on to next second, next minute, next hour, next day, next month…
And yet we attach our lives to that movement of time. We let it decide our lives. We take decisions now based on future. We question people. We put trust in people… or not put trust in people and let this trust decide our here and now.
We miss out on what is the best happening to us right now in anticipation of the best in the future. What if the best was happening right here and right now while we were focusing on future best?
“Where do you see yourself in 5 years?” standard interview question when you are perhaps under 30. And we all worked hard on preparing an answer that will sound very profound and hopefully impress the interviewer.
People get into relationships and the question in mind always is how do you see the future of the relationship.
Living for now is considered a sin. If you lived for now, people will tell you that you lack foresight. They will tell you that you have no focus in life. They will tell you that you are going to be a failure. They will tell you that you lack maturity. They will tell you that you are impulsive and it is so wrong. I say bullocks to all the nay sayers.
I know a whole lot of people who do actually take the time to read my boring blog would comment it is very easy for me to say all this but very tough to follow it.
All of you are probably right. I was also probably one of you. Always thinking of the future. Getting optimistic about it at times and depressed at other times. But as the life progressed, it has taught me that all of it is a load of rubbish. It taught me that your best laid plans more often that not, do not quite pan out the way you wanted them to.
There is a phrase I live by now – “Life turns on a dime”. You cant predict and plan every single move for the future. There are way too many variables that define life. And more often than not, you will be hit by a variable when you are least expecting it. You can be blindsided and wont even know what hit you. That is how life turns on a dime.
I don’t plan anymore… at least never a long term plan. And that plan too is always fluid. I never get rigid about every step. It is about a moment and the moment after that.
I would rather let the life pan out than to push and shove it in a direction I want it to go.
Ever tried that? Living in the moment and telling the future to go take a walk… I bet you haven’t.
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