Humans and souls


Right through my professional life, while I have worked with people similar to my age and experience, I have learnt the most from those who are lot younger. Have met some of the sharpest brains. And it has been my privilege to hone their thinking. Be their mentor. But at times (and the occasions have been plenty), the stuff they say and think, is very thought provoking. Yesterday, my young colleague told me how she believes in this rather profound quote – “too many humans and not enough souls”.

Made me think. It is perhaps an indictment of what we have become.

In the past when we said “be human”, it was in the context of being different from animals. Human was about empathy and understanding of other fellow human beings.

So yes, today we are 7 billion strong as a human race. Driven by culture, society, aspiration for all things material, running after every single desire. Killing in the name of race and religion. Doing anything possible to get ahead. It doesn’t matter who we hurt in the process. How many dreams we kill to get to our dream.

We now have a human form but it is just a physical embodiment.

We do not have a soul. We do not have depth in our thinking and understanding. We do not look at a deeper connect with people. We count the number of people who follow us in social media space. We do not even interact with even ten percent of our followers.

Soul is what defines us and yet we have lost it somewhere in our drive to get ahead.

Any person who is not materialistic, does not have ambition (the way world defines it), believes in building deeper relationships that go beyond the shallow, is considered weak, an abnormality in this world.

Of course the digital world is in a way the biggest culprit. It gives a sense of being connected but that is never the case.

Today, we lack emotions, we lack empathy, we lack understanding.

Soul mates is just something nice to say to one person till we find another person to say the same thing.

There just aren’t enough souls anymore. Only humans pretending to be humans.

Be interesting


That’s the objective of every communication.

Being interesting is not about what you think is interesting but knowing the other person’s point of view to know what is interesting for that person.

Holds true in our business too. If what we create is not interesting enough, consumers will blindspot you.

It is also important to constantly keep track to know if you have stopped being interesting. Requires a lot of introspection.

Never take it at face value if someone tells you that you are not interesting or rather not interesting anymore. Is it you who has stopped being interesting or has the entity found something or someone more interesting.

Be interesting is when the association starts. Continuing to be interesting is to hold on to that position long term.

People are flirtatious today. As people and as consumers. Holding there attention for long required us to be on the ball… all the time. Requires a very dispassionate view of yourself. Also requires insight into the other entity.

Most relationships fail… whether it is between two individuals or the brand and consumer when we take the eye of the ball and it rattles the cage of your helmet.

In cricket, you can stand up again and face the next ball with renewed focus but not in life.

So be interesting… all the time!

What do you do


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Bright crisp winter morning (or balmy summer morning if you are in southern hemisphere).

Imagine the scenario.

You step out on to the cricket field as a test batsmen. The pitch has a tinge of green. You know you will have to take time to settle in… read the pitch, watch how the ball behaves off the pitch and in the air. You take guard and get on with your game… focused for a long haul… no rash strokes… no rush of blood… Hour and half into the morning, you are moving smoothly. The nerves have calmed down. You have weathered the storm. You haven’t scored lot of runs but the ball is sounding sweet off the bat. You know big runs are there to be scored in the afternoon and evening sessions.

And then everything explodes in your face. Suddenly you are told that the rules have been changed completely. The half an hour before lunch is all you have. Because the new rules come into immediate effect and the opposing team will bat after lunch! You are so screwed.

Or imagine another scenario. 15 overs into a one day match, you are told that it suddenly is a 20:20 match! Screwed again.

Ok so it won’t happen ever like this. But what if it did. How would ¬†you respond? Sure you are a great batsmen and can soak in stress and pressure like nobody can. But situations like this, I bet even your brain will freeze. You will lash out and do stuff that is so not you. Goes without saying, only if luck is with you on that day, all shots will come off… else you will be throwing stuff at the walls in the dressing room… maybe even throwing yourself against the wall..

Sure Duckworth Lewis method has tripped many a teams but in that you know what is likely to happen since you got an eye on the weather.

In cricket, you will probably lose the match and have opportunity to win the next time…

But what if life does the same to you.. whether at work or in a relationship…. Just when you are getting comfortable and happy about things and the rules change suddenly… what do you do??

Sure most of you will say that you surely will live to fight another day and another day and another day…. But what if every time same thing happens…

Professionally you can still find a way… adapt yourself to the game or start playing something else… you will get by.

But in a relationship…. what if there are no comebacks… or there are second chances but odds are completely loaded against you… what do you do?

Life doesn’t have a Duckworth Lewis equivalent. It just decides to screw you over without a warning.

Sure would love to know how people out there tackle these situations….what do you do when the rules change suddenly and trip you….

(image courtesy sriram-unplugged.blogspot.com)

Turns my stomach


After a long time I opened the front page of the newspaper and remembered why I have stopped looking at the front page.

The violence and the extremeness of it made me want to throw up. What is it that drives people to take another life. I understand rage but to snuff away a life?!

Why are we becoming so violent? Or were we always this extreme and somehow it never turned into action? Is it as a society that we are going wrong somewhere? Or is it ‘expectations’ not getting fulfilled that leads us to such an action. Whatever it is, something is going wrong seriously and for most of us it has become a headline that we read in the paper or watch it getting sensationalised on trashy news channels.

We have become immune to violence. We read and move on. It is not happening to us or to anyone we know so why should we care. Even if we cared, what is it we can do?

I firmly believe that all of us move around with a facade that shows to the world how nice we are… but deep inside all of us, there is a monster just waiting to rear its head.

In the past perhaps we had a fear that our actions would lead to serious consequences for us. There perhaps used to be a voice of reason that helped us keep the monster firmly chained. But today, that voice of reason has been chained and the monster is on loose. The facade that we have, slips very quickly at the slightest provocation.

I think we all are bi polar and it is the other personality that is taking over. We use the facade to seduce people into doing what we want and when they don’t, hands around the neck, a battering ram, a knife, a bullet… it has become all too easy to listen to the ‘insane’ inside us.

The entire society needs a shrink for the psychological problems. Because that is what the problem really is… at a psychological level.

I have rage inside me. Whole lot of frustration. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever let the monster loose? Right now I know I will never let that happen but then… I have never felt an insane rage ever. How will I know how to react if that ever happens….