Comfort Zone


We all have our comfort zones and we love them. They provide a sense of security and a walls that keep us away from all the supposed stress and bad things.

We fall in love with our comfort zones so much that we turn it into a fortress. We believe we are protecting ourselves but what we are doing essentially is saying no to a whole lot of things. We are rationalising our behaviour. Stepping out, bringing the walls down takes a lot of courage. We look for reasons not to do so. If we were to toss a coin, we will go through “best of three”, “best of five”…

What is a comfort zone really? The obvious answer of course is everything that makes us comfortable. People, things, products, service, our habits, our culture. You can add or delete to the list but this list essentially forms our comfort zone. We do try once in a while to push the wall on one of the things. Test ourself out. If it works, we will push further. But if it doesn’t, the barriers are raised.

But enough has been said and written about this, so wont go on and on.

Coming to the reason for this post. I have decided to test its limits. I am going to give up on smoking, drinking, non vegetarian food and sweets. People who have read my blog regularly would now my complete love for nicotine and how I look at it. The ones who know me well enough, they know what a big foodie I am and how non vegetarian food is such an integral part of me being foodie! And I do like my beer too. Sweets I have always been partial to desi sweets. Four things in one go. I am really going to test myself. And test the patience of people around me!

So lets see how it goes. I am going to work on the quarter principle. One quarter at a time. Forever sounds like a huge task and I don’t want forever. So breaking it down into smaller goals.

That’s a life lesson by the way. Do not aim for something really big and plan for it. Yes that is the ultimate goal but focus on smaller steps that will get you there. We usually do not do that. We aim for the big goal and create stress for ourselves when it takes time to reach there.

So here goes with my experiment of stepping out of the comfort zone. If this succeeds, there are more things to do. 🙂

 

The ‘what if’ of life


Last year I had posted about a phrase that we love using often.. That was – l told you so.

Apart from that, we also love playing the ‘what if’ game. We play it with our past and we play it with our future.

We look back at key events of the past, usually the not so happy ones or the ones that had an impact on the way things are in present, and wonder what if we had done things differently, reacted differently, taken a step that would have led to a more favourable outcome. We do that and live with regret. We promise ourselves that if similar situation occurred, our response will be different. But the point is, we did what we did. Yes the impact was not favourable. But so what?? Will thinking about it make any difference? Why dwell on it and consider it as a big mistake. Move on.

But move on we don’t. We start using the ‘what if’ for our future decisions. Second guessing the outcomes. And that leads to us not taking a risk. As is our penchant, when we play what if with the future, we dwell on the likelihood of a negative impact and then choose not to take the step. We choose to deprive ourselves of experiences. We choose to take a path that’s safe. We choose to maintain a status quo because the ‘what if’ of the past is governing our future. Makes us scared. Makes us wary.

Yes I have also played this ‘what if’ game with my past. But the big difference is that I have not done it for the future. Taken what life has to offer. Gone ahead and done things.. taken the risk. Yes all risks have not paid off but at least they have helped me get stronger. And the ones that paid off, have increased the appetite for venturing into the unknown.